Each week I receive an average of thirty inquiries from people who want my services to help them find love. Most of those people will not become my clients; in fact, I only take on at most eight to ten clients at a time, and I won’t accept new clients until my existing ones are successfully matched. You might be wondering: what does it take to become one of my clients, and why do I only accept such a select few?

Highly Personalized Services

Part of the reason I have to turn away potential clients is due to time constraints. When people request my services, they are requesting my special expertise and attention, and I deliver that to each and every one of my clients. I get to know my clients one-on-one and build a personal relationship with each of them before I start bringing them potential matches. I don’t have junior matchmakers do that work for me, and frankly, the quality of my services wouldn’t be the same without the specific care I give to each client.

Matchmaking is Difficult for the Client

Even with the most brilliant matchmaker in the world and a prime dating pool of eligible singles, some people just can’t be matched. It’s not that they don’t deserve love or that they aren’t wonderful, successful individuals. The reason I can’t help them is because they’re not interested in helping themselves by doing the significant amount of work it takes to find and maintain a committed relationship.

I have had many individuals contact me and assume financing is all that’s expected of them. They believe that they hand over a check and in return, I supply them with a steady stream of dates. This couldn’t be further from reality. The matchmaking process isn’t about the money you spend or the number of dates you have; it’s about the amount of work you do for yourself outside of dates. Forging a long-lasting relationship requires the ability to compromise, take guidance from someone else, and the willingness to become the best version of yourself. When it comes the matchmaking process, not only do I expect to see those qualities develop in clients as they explore a new relationship, but I also expect them to treat my time, effort, and instruction with the same amount of respect and dedication they would afford to a partner.

The Selection Process  

To determine whether or not a potential client is serious about that self-work, I have them go through a rigorous selection process. First, they must fill out a comprehensive form that will help me discern immediately who isn’t ready for my services.

The second step is a paid phone or video consultation. Not only does this consultation give me an opportunity to learn more about a client on a personal level, it also reveals whether or not they have a vested interest in being matched, since they must dedicate time and money before they’re even guaranteed to receive services.

Based on what we discussed during the consultation, I’ll make a determination on whether or not the potential client is a good fit for my services. Some of the main questions I consider:

  • What are they looking for in a partner?
  • Are their standards for a partner realistic?
  • Are they willing to work on themselves?

If I see that their standards are realistic and that they are ready to put in the work, I will take them on as a client. From there, matching is easy; usually the perfect partner is right in front of us.